Brenda Nicholson

You can be so busy taking care of business and other people that you aren’t even aware of what’s going on with your own body. I found out I’d had a heart attack at some point in my life. No idea when. How crazy is that? Your situation is probably not that extreme, but if […]

DON’T LEAVE. I know time management sounds boring and corporate, but I don’t know how else to say it. Manage your time well and you get stuff done in less time. That means you have more time for self-care. Look, I’m a planner and productivity/time management geek. They keep my ADHD somewhat under control. And

Want to make your life easier? Start by making certain decisions once, and then automate as much as you can. Here are some examples: 🧵👇🏼 Decision fatigue is a real thing. Save your energy for big things that matter. Choose a “uniform” that you can throw together without thinking. Neutral tops and bottoms that match,

Just so we’re clear — I haven’t fallen off the big wagon — I’m not drinking. But everything I’ve ever advised in terms of self-care? I’ve fallen off all of those. The only thing positive that I’ve been doing for myself is walking. Oh, and painting. I started watercoloring again at someone’s suggestion and that helps. In my defense,

I believe that title is a quote from the late Dr. Wayne Dyer. Or, to quote the title of one of his books, You’ll See It When You Believe It. Some people call it manifestation. Albert Einstein called it physics. So whether you are spiritual or only want hard facts, you’ve got it. While some

This essay is mainly for BIPOC and LGBTQ people, and let me say up front, I mean no disrespect. Also, please correct me if I get something wrong. The reason that I am writing for you today is because statistically, you are the population most likely to neglect self-care. And some of you are more

The version of self-care that I teach is simple, easy, accessible, and there when you have the time. It is not meant as one more thing you have to do. And if you have a crazy day and don’t get to it, that’s OK. Give yourself some grace. Self-care is made to benefit you, but

Sensuality refers to much more than just sex; it’s a gratification of the senses. Under the right circumstances, sex can be an excellent form of self-care. But consider your other senses in a sexual situation: a satin robe, body lotion with a pleasing aroma, some juicy strawberries or decadent chocolate. You can appreciate any of

If you’re not enjoying self-care, what’s the point? It shouldn’t be one more item on your to-do list. Can you imagine trying to rush through deep breathing to relax? You’d end up hyperventilating! Self-care is slow because it takes time to implement and because it is something to be savored. Making yourself a cup of

The world right now is a great big scary place. Keeping up with the news can make your anxiety and depression worse. It can make you feel overwhelmed and helpless, like there’s nothing you can do. That state of mind isn’t good for you. I’ll tell you what I used to tell my girls: you