I never thought of myself as a controlling person, but it turns out I am. I like to plan; to know what’s happening in advance. That way I’m prepared. No surprises for me. Turns out the world doesn’t work that way. And I can’t control it. Damn. Maybe you’re like me and don’t realize you’re […]
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Do you ever wish you could take your brain out and give it a good cleaning? I know I do. But I have ADHD so I probably have more clutter than most. That’s how I found a surprising way to clear things out. Your outer world reflects your inner world. That means that if your house
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Do you listen to your body? I’ve learned to listen to mine. Your body can tell you so much when you tune in. How do you do that and what can you learn? You can learn a lot by paying attention. Sounds crazy, but I recently learned how to tell when I’m hungry. Before I grabbed
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Depression medication is a lifesaver when it works, but sometimes it needs help. It’s not that you need a change of meds. Maybe something is going on in your life that’s making things worse. The weather or time of year can do it. Here are the things that have helped me. 1: Changing my attitude.
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True story. I was raised in a Pentecostal church. Lots of Old Testament preaching. Fire, brimstone, and the threat of hell were in every sermon. God was someone to be feared; a supreme being who judged you. As a kid, I didn’t think I was doing so well. I was an only child, born late in
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Hello, fellow imperfect person. You are joined by everyone else on the planet in being imperfect. Sorry — this is not an exclusive club. But you do get points for trying so hard to be perfect that you sometimes feel like a complete failure. Before you go blaming yourself — it’s not your fault. Many perfectionists got their start
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Nothing scary here, except your demons. We all have them — the things about ourselves that we’re not so proud of. We can ignore them or we can face them. Learning to deal with them is what shadow work is about. Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist, came up with the term “shadow self” and shadow work emerged
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You want to become a journaler but you don’t know where to begin. Maybe you’ve been to the store and looked at notebooks and got confused. You saw the ones online that “real” journalers use, but they’re expensive and how do you know you’ll like this? And what else do you need and how do
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What is a surrender pocket? It’s an envelope. You write what is worrying you — things you have no control over — and place them in there. Acknowledge they are out of your control and give them over to the Universe. And then, each time you think of one of these things, you remember that you have given it
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Do you make a point of allowing time for yourself each day? I’m talking about time set aside for whatever you want to do. Not 15 minutes to shower and dress. And workouts only count if you enjoy them. That’s a bitch. Setting aside time for self-care or relaxing should be a regular part of
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