About a year and a half ago, I found out that I had had a heart attack. I have no idea when. That still boggles my mind. That’s the way many women experience heart attacks. Or, I guess, don’t experience them. Right now, as I write this, my heart is beating erratically. Could it be […]
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Do you spend your time thinking about the past, present, or future? Research shows that living in the present moment can improve your life immensely, including your mental health. However, it’s a sad fact that most of us don’t. Instead, we ruminate about the past or look toward the future. But past and future mindsets
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Do you feel like everyone is judging you, or is that me? I’ve done a lot of studying and working with shadow work, and I know that I am a judgemental person. I try not to be, but I am far too often. And maybe that’s why I feel as though others are judging me.
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Mila Scott was my grandmother on my mom’s side. I found a picture of her tonight as my daughter and I sorted through old photos. And I found out that she had a stepfather. I never knew. My daughter and I commented on the pictures of some of my aunts — Mila’s daughters — and how different they looked
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Mindfulness is not a solution for everyone. As much as I have studied it, this was news to me. Also, surprising was finding out that there are many ways to practice mindfulness. And that sometimes, trying to do so can cause added stress. Mindfulness is calmly observing what is happening in the present moment without
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Spoiler alert: don’t get your hopes up. I’m in a bad mood. It’s been a few days now. All I want to do is sit and be depressed. I was researching self-care when I found an article in the New York Times written by an executive coach. He quoted a couple of psychologists, and at
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When it comes to priorities, you are number one. Before your children, partner, loved ones, or anyone else. Your boss is not on the list. Neither is anyone who is all about negativity. Say it with me: ain’t nobody got time for that. What you DO have time for — or will MAKE time for — is self-care. Because
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Friday, December 3, 2021, I started what would become a disaster of an art project and found my joy in life again. I had been looking for meaning in my life and remembered how, as a child, I had loved to make art. I found an online class and signed up. I was so excited!
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The practice of gratitude is such a simple thing, but research shows that there are seven proven rewards: Better sleep Higher self-esteem Improved physical health Stronger mental health Increase new relationships and strengthen existing ones Reduce stress and assist in overcoming trauma More empathy towards others and less anger That’s a lot of benefits for
When my son was two, he saw our dog get hit, run over, and killed by a large delivery truck. He was about ten feet away. He witnessed a horrible thing, but he had no way of expressing it at only two years old. I asked my daughter’s pre-school teacher for advice. She told me